Being a spiritual body living a human experience can be difficult at times, especially when there are people around you draining you of your ase'. Emotional awareness allows you to be aware of yourself as well as your surroundings. When we aren't aware of the warning signs, be it that it's in the way we treat ourselves, the way we allow others to treat us or even in the way we treat and interact with others. Sometimes.....yes, we can be the problem. It takes a brave individual to be honest about how they've been going about their life.
Co-dependency is defined as a theory that explains imbalanced relationships where one person enables another person's self-destructive behavior such as addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. As a spirit body, when we are learning how to be in our own power, we may fall prey to or exude co-dependent behavior. Here are a few signs of co-dependency:
1.) Feeling responsible for solving others' problems.
2.) Offering advice even if it isn't asked for.
3.) Poor communication regarding feelings, wants, or needs.
4.) Difficulty adjusting to change.
5.) Expecting others to do as you say.
6.) Difficulty making decisions.
7.) Chronic anger.
8.) Feeling used and under-appreciated.
9.) People-pleasing to be liked or loved.
10.) Lack of trust in self or others.
11.) Fearing rejection or being unloveable.
12.) Feeling like a victim.
13.) Taking everything personally.
14.) Lying to yourself and making excuses for others bad behavior.
15.) General sense of helplessness, anxiety, depression, or depression.
16.) Feeling the need to take care of people; savior complex
17.) Being needy or the need to always have someone around you, no personal space
In one of the 12 universal laws, The Law of Correspondence, it states that the outer world is a reflection of our inner world. The key to manifesting a reality that you desire most requires accountability and personal power. Co-dependency clouds your judgement, keeps you spiritually stifled, places your power in the hands of others and causes you to put others way of thinking and their judgment above your own. There are many different reasons we end up in spaces such as this but getting to know thyself, understanding yourself and mourning your old self are just a few things that one must do in order to be able to grow on a personal and spiritual level.
If you are trapped in this cycle with someone, whatever end of the stick that you may fall on, please understand that this is the process to progress and being receptive to constructive criticism from someone you trust like a counselor or spiritual advisor is key.Freeing yourself from a self-inflicted prison is a cause for applaud on its own! Furthermore, if you'd like more on this topic click here.
Blessings